Explaining the move to a reluctant teenager — how did you do it?

Our eldest was ten when we moved and furious in a quieter way, which was almost worse than slamming doors. What finally helped wasn't selling it. We gave him a real job in the move. He planned our first weekend in the new city: he picked the places, checked the bus routes, and was in charge of the map. It gave him something that was his, rather than something being done to him. He still talks about that weekend.

Speaking as a dad of two, now ten and twelve, I'd add one thing to Marco's point about letting them be angry. Keep one thing exactly the same after the move: a sport, a Friday film night, the same breakfast. Everything else changed for our kids, and the one unchanged ritual gave them somewhere to stand. Our son says now that football on Saturdays was the only thing that felt normal for six months.

Two teenagers, moving next year. Taking notes. The door-slamming frequency described here sounds familiar already.

Emma, daily to weekly is real progress. Ours went from weekly to "only when we mention homework", which I'm counting as a win.