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First week at a local school when your child doesn't speak the language yet

Olena Kravchenko ⭐ Helpful member
11 Aug 2026, 17:54

Sofiia, my daughter, is eight. She starts at a local primary school in Cork at the end of the month. She has some English from school in Ukraine, but it's classroom English, and she is very quiet with people she doesn't know.

The school has been kind, and they have an extra language support teacher. But I am worried about the first week: lunch, the playground, not understanding the teacher, other children. She says she's fine, which is what she always says.

For parents who put a child into a school where they didn't speak the language well: what helped in the first week? Is there anything I should prepare with her now, or anything I should ask the school before the first day?

7 replies

Carla Romano ⭐ Helpful member
11 Aug 2026, 19:43

Olena, our two started at a local school in Austria with almost no German, and a few things made a real difference. We visited the school together before the first day, walked the route, found the toilets and the classroom, so nothing on day one was completely new. We gave the teacher a single page with a few words about each child: what they like, what makes them anxious, and one or two phrases in Italian that calm them down. And we taught them five sentences: I need the toilet, I don't understand, can you show me, I'm hungry, I don't feel well. That was enough to get through the first week.

Ahmed Hassan ⭐ Helpful member
12 Aug 2026, 10:03

Our daughter was quiet in exactly the way you describe. What helped her most was one classmate. The teacher paired her with a girl who was patient and liked to organise people, and within two weeks they were inseparable. Ask the school if they can do that on purpose. Teachers are usually very good at choosing the right buddy.

Anna Kowalski 🏆 Community expert
13 Aug 2026, 22:37

Carla's five sentences are gold. Laminate them and put them in her lunchbox.

Olena Kravchenko ⭐ Helpful member
15 Aug 2026, 07:19

Thank you, all of this is so practical. We will visit the school next week, and I'm writing the page for the teacher tonight. And the five sentences, in her lunchbox, of course.

Aisha Okonkwo ⭐ Helpful member
16 Aug 2026, 08:43

The first week is harder for the parent than the child, I promise. Mine came home talking about the playground, not the lessons.

Elena Popescu 🏆 Community expert
18 Aug 2026, 11:04

Wishing Sofiia a gentle first week. My daughter was quiet too, and by November the teacher was asking her to be the buddy for the next new girl.

Oliver Brandt ⭐ Helpful member
21 Aug 2026, 15:57

A picture book in the new language that she can read at home helped ours more than any app. Something she could feel good at.