Arjun, we did almost exactly your plan, and what we regretted shipping was the furniture we kept "just in case", because the flat we found was a different shape. What we were glad we shipped was the kids' own things, their bedding, their books and a few toys, because it made their new rooms theirs from the first night. As for the dinner set, let your wife win. The dinner set is never really about the plates.
Five weeks until we fly. We've decided to sell most of our furniture, ship ten boxes, and take four suitcases each. My wife now wants to ship the good dinner set. I'm arguing for sell everything and start again. For those who moved with a family: what did you ship, what did you regret shipping, and what did you wish you'd kept?