We've done all the practical planning but nobody talks about this bit: leaving the grandkids. I'm thrilled about the move and grieving it at the same time. Anyone else sat with this? How did you make peace with it?
This resonates deeply, currently sitting with exactly the same grief-alongside-excitement feeling myself.
Gentle disagreement with treating this purely as something to grieve through — for me the guilt faded once I realised the alternative, staying and quietly resenting the choice, wasn’t actually better for anyone, including the grandkids. Reframing it helped more than time alone did.
Thanks for opening this up, Helga — it's one of the realest parts of moving and it gets skipped. If the low moments get heavy, a lot of the country guides list local English-speaking support and community groups in the daily-life sections; worth knowing they're there before you need them. And threads like this are exactly what the forum's for.